He is 52 and recently admitted that he has been impotent from a very young age, and uses alcohol to cope. Is it too late to help him?
My cousin is 52 and was a beautiful, intelligent child and young adult, but he became an alcoholic and has been for the past 25 years. Recently when drunk he admitted in an answerphone machine that he had been impotent from a very early age, and that he had been trying to find ways to compensate for this heavy and painful secret. I would like to help him but I do not know how. One of his sisters and I are the only ones who know his heartbreaking secret, and I am really cross with his parents, who should have seen it and acted. He does not even know if he has a physical dysfunction or if it has some link with his permanently arguing and sexually disharmonic parents. I hope you will be able to help me help him (if it is still possible).
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